I have been thinking about this alot especially after watching the dissolve of Kim K. and Kris H. marriage unfold on Kourtney and Kim take New York ( yes yes I know I watch it.)
Here are a few things I have learned from watching this season of Kourtney and Kim Take New York.
It struck me while watching it that the biggest mistake anyone can bring to a marriage or a relationship is not accepting the person that you are with for who they REALLY are.
I am always amazed by people who meet their respective significant other in a party and through out their relationship party hard together and then once married or seriously committed expect the person to change and give up a partying life. Or in Kris Humps case grumping because Kim is living her life for the cameras. Didn't he meet her while she was living life in front of a camera stage or not? And can he seriously be upset because she wouldn't move to Minnesota why would he even think that is possible I don't even know her and I know that was never going to happen. Moving from city life to country life is hard for anyone even those who willingly want it.
Sigh but really no matter how many time it is said that you shouldn't go into a relationship with the hope that the other person would change people will still do it and people will just have their expectations dashed.
Oh well so I guess the lessons learned are:
- Don't expect a person to change because you want it
- Accept a person for who they are and decide if you are willing to be with that person as if ( if they do change it should be because they want)
- Compromise is key
Have a great week all!