Friday, March 14, 2014

To drink or not to drink


Yahoo Shine's 5 Surprising Secrets To a Happy Marriage is really an interesting read.
The tips for a Happy marriage is interesting with  a delicious twist.
I especially love this:
"If you're going to drink a cocktail, pour for two. Although it's unclear why, both married and dating couples who enjoy between one and three drinks together feel happier than those who indulge when they're apart. "Individuals who drink with their partner report feeling increased intimacy and decreased relationship problems the next day, compared to individuals who drink apart from their partner or do not drink at all," lead author Ash Levitt, PhD, a postdoctoral fellow at University of Buffalo's Research Institute on Addictions, said in a press release. The effects were seen in couples who mirror each other's drinking habits, so if your partner is abstaining, you should too."
Do you drink together? We do sometimes. After reading this article I realised that the hubbie who has always been a  rum and pepsi drinker actually drinks cranberry and rum whenever I do drink alcohol. Strange the little ways you adapt to each other.

Read the rest of the article here.
And here is another good read : 8 Acts Of Chivalry To Bring Back

Maybe you have a drink or two together but most of all have a great weekend together.  

Cheers


Friday, February 14, 2014

Happy Valentines day

I am not a big music person as in I very rarely know who sings the song I am humming along.
But i have been really, belatedly, loving John Legend.
I am especially in love with the song he wrote for his now wife Chrissy Teigen- All of Me.
Makes me think of the hubbie. and makes me smile.

Happy 15 Anniversary to us!




Is there a song that does that for you?
Happy Valentine's Day my friends.

Hope you have a great day sharing hugs and kisses with family, friends and if there is one your significant other.
XOXOXOX

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Making it a habit.

It is really interesting cruising around the webosphere ( yes I know, not a word) when it comes to marriage and staying that way the advice is not original.

Touch each other every day. Hold hands, sit close together for a few minutes.

Make time for each other. Spend time with each other.

Don't ever bad mouth your significant other.

Choose to be together. Choose to stay married.


And that is not a bad thing. To me it means that it is all tried and tested so should be easy enough to follow. Or at least be worth it to try some of the advice.
Click here for Habits of a Hot Marriage-great read.

If you have been passed through here a few time you would know that February is my favourite month. I go into great detail in this past post http://ishouldnthavetosay.blogspot.com/2011/02/im-in-mood-for-love.html

Valentine's day is 2 days away wishing you all the day and the surprises that you wish for when it does come. I love this post about Valentine's day expectations from the new to me blog An Inch of Gray. Click here  to enjoy as well. It made me giggle.  

The hubbie and I will be celebrating 15 years of marriage. What an interesting ride it has been so far.
Here is to many many more.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Communication is key

First post for the year!!! Screech how did that happen? Sigh oh well i will just skip the preamble and apologies and just drop a few lines on you.

Saw this weird little video entitled  "If you want a successful long-term relationship of any kind. Here Are 3 Invaluable Things To Know" and it very simply outlines exactly what I like to say here when I do come a-visiting.

And the three things are

Commitment, 

Authenticity (honesty and candor)

 and Communication.

have a look....




 
What do you think of it?
Hope to be seeing more of you this year of 2014 and the year of the horse.

Monday, October 28, 2013

Always remember to share with your significant other what you like about the other.  


Because no one has  figured out how to read minds yet!

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Hellooo Hellooo

I can not believe it! I just cant believe it it has been 4 month since I last visited here!!!!!
Yes I know it is a faux pas to add so many exclamation marks but I feel as if I could add more. But as we all know time gets in the way and summer was excitedly busy so so it goes. Hope all has been good with you all.

I came across this article on Shine ( yes I still am liking their relationship aricles) and I felt I had to share the link here with you.

5 Unusual Ways Men Learn to Be Good Husbands 

Great advice I think for both husbands and wives. I especially like this section

Keep trying to get it right (source: your partner)

Really, this is the most important person you learn about marriage from. There are the little things your spouse teaches you, like "Put the toilet seat down" or "Don't bother me while I'm watching Doctor Who," but there are also the larger lessons. It took me a long time to learn how to fight. I tried fighting like my parents did, but that didn't work because Karel doesn't respond well to yelling. I tried burying it deep down so I wouldn't yell, but that didn't solve anything because I went mute. So now I've developed a very monotone delivery when I'm mad. It's not like Karel enjoys my fighting voice (I basically sound like a robot), but she doesn't tune it out. We don't scare the kids, we don't scare each other-hey, it works for us. I could only have learned to fight like a robot from being married to Karel, and I'm sure she's learned equally valuable lessons from me. I'll ask her what they are just as soon as Doctor Who is over.

What he says here is genius to me right now. Figuring how to fight properly is an important key in maintaining a good relationship, because lets face it there are going to be fights and depending how you handle those fights  makes a world of difference in your relationship.

Keep trying to get it right also speaks to my favourite mantra when it comes to relationships and marriage in particular, which as you may recall is Choose to stay married.

:D
Well that is all for now click here to read the whole article.
Hope you are having a great week.

Oh and Congratulations to my friend Racquel, wishing her and new hubbie many happy years together filled with love, success and prosperity.


Saturday, May 25, 2013

Just like Tom & Jerry



The other day I overheard a guy describing his 2 year marriage and was quite tickled by it.
He likened marriage to that of a Tom and Jerry episode where you spend all your time trying to kill, trap, or maim the other and just as you about to be victorious in the kill, it hits you that there is no way life would mean anything if they were gone.
Well my first reaction was of course - No way is marriage like a Tom and Jerry pfft what did he know the little upstart.
And then congratulating a friend on 10 years of marriage, she pretty much had the same sentiment.
Her response to the my words of congratulations:- "Can you believe 10 years and I haven't  killed him yet and boy have I thought of it a few times too many LOL. But he is a good man and I do still love him so."
And I suppose if I really think about it I would have to admit that  marriage is made up of a whole lot of sparring mixed with a good dose of make-up time.

What do you think?

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.