A Co-Committed Relationship from goop

I want to thank again my Guest bloggers- Kelly Pugliano from MomGotBlog.com  and Andrea from multiplemama.com who so kindly allowed us to peek into their lives as their share their sweet A~Ha moments.  They surely made the month of love even sweeter over here :-D

I subscribe to Gwyneth Paltrow blog- Goop. It is one of the few blogs that I do subscribe to.

And I usually enjoy her newsletters.
She is actually one of my favourite female idols.
Working mom who in her 'middle age' added two new careers (singing and authoring)  to her portfolio how cool is that.
So why am I sharing this you must be wondering.. well this week's post is so interesting and relevant to what I think and say here that I had to share it.
Here is an excerpt from the post that intrigued me- 

 Commitment and re-commitment: "Lasting relationships use whole-hearted commitment as a place to come home to and to steer the relationship. Commitment locates you on your relationship map so you can move from where you are to where you want to be. Recommitting when you mess up is the key, and recommitting to reveal your true self and your true feelings is the crux of it. For example, committing to reveal gains real traction when, in the moment of noticing that you’re concealing anger, you take a breath, recommit to revealing, and share the experience of being angry. What doesn’t work is concealing, noticing the concealing, blaming yourself for concealing, feeling like a failure, noticing that your partner conceals too and jumping on the blame merry-go-round."

I also am partial to this

 "A conscious relationship is one in which people are awake to themselves, their feelings and thoughts, and are open to the flow of love and attention with one another. In a conscious relationship you can be completely yourself and completely connected. In a co-dependent relationship you have two halves trying to become whole: one person who doesn't love him/herself trying to get the other person to love them anyway. In a conscious relationship, both people know they're whole in themselves; they know they don't 'need' the other person to complete them. In a conscious relationship, it’s about two people celebrating together, not trying to get something from the other."

 Click here to read the entire post/interview on goop

Hope you enjoy it and you gain some insight.
I know I did.
Have a great weekend!

A Multiple Mama Love Story

In honour of Valentines Love season and with the help of some of my blogger friends I am happy to have again this year the A-Ha love series to celebrate February, love, relationships and of course my anniversary- teehee looking at 13 years on Valentine's day.

A Multiple Mama Love Story- So happy to have Andrea of Multiple Mama.com one of my fav blogger Moms share her wonderful A~Ha love story with us today. Like me she is a mother of 4 and I enjoy her witty stories of life with multiples- yes she has a daughter, twin cuties and now a newborn. So honestly just absolutely honoured that she could find time in her busy schedule to share her A~Ha moment with us.

My love story…

This is a post I have been procrastinating my butt around for an entire year.

Yep, a whole year.

Why?

Because my love story is not a great one.

It is not a bad one.

It is just not fireworks and skywriting kind of great.

It is more a collection of the happy mistakes and blunders that turned out well kind.

See, we were set up on a blind date as a result of me having a few drinks and telling a work acquaintance that I hated the other people at the table. All of them. All except her of course. And somehow that gave her, and her husband, the idea I should date their friend.

Makes total sense right? Well, we were teachers and it was the last day of school. Nothing makes sense to teachers by then.

And so there we were on a blind date at California Pizza Kitchen for lunch. I drove myself after refusing to give him my home address. And then I ended it early because my dog was sick. No, really she was. I wasn't just making it up. But, I figured he would think I was and that would probably be that.

And when he didn't call for a few weeks I just kinda didn't think about it.

Maybe the fact that I am never home and didn't have an answering machine at the time had something to do with it. At least that is what he claims now.

But seriously, one thing I know now that I didn't fully understand then is he wasn't my type. And by that I mean he wasn't the unavailable, flaky, unreliable, baggage up to his eyeballs kinda guy. You know that spend half their time in the gym trading tips on how to sweep women off their feet, and then consequently, even if just metaphorically, dump them on their heads?

He was a nice guy. And I hardly knew what to do with that.

Anyway, for one reason or another the entire summer slipped by without us seeing each other again. And finally we were back at school for our first teacher meeting. And the instigators behind our meeting were planning a group outing for all four of us.

And that date?

Well, it was an entire day (like earlier than most single people get out of bed kind of entire day) filled with overbooked trains and no reserved seats, coupled with horse racing, and bets which I never could understand.


But, by the end when we found ourselves back where we started and I had my first opportunity to go home. I didn't.

No, I didn't spend the night. This isn't that kind of post.

We went to dinner. Our third meal together that day. And for some reason it still didn't feel like enough.


The rest is, as they say, history.

Almost seven years later, here we are with four kids and starting a brand new journey in our new house and neighborhood.

From the archives - my A-Ha moment

 Monday, February 14, 2011

That A-Ha your it moment...

The first time I ever laid eyes on the guy that would be my husband
was say the second month of my college life.
I was sitting in 'the pit' soaking in the college vibe
and then this guy caught my eye.
What a surreal movie moment
It was as if light was surrounding him
a spot light shining down from the heaven
There he walked dressed in suit and tie swinging a briefcase
( yes I did say we were in college but he is preppy like that... picture a black Micheal J. Fox)
and I thought wow now that is a good looking fella
That is the guy I am going to marry!
Screech!!!!!!!!!! What was that... where did that come from!
I instantly panicked because it was the strangest sensation I just knew that it was true even though we had not even met. It didn't help that I didn't plan to get married ever and also I was in a long-distance relationship already to confuse the brain.
So I quickly chastised my self and let it slip out of my mind.
But as faith would have it
The guy introduced himself a month later, we did the friend thing for a bit and
when we were both single
we gave it a try
and
as I predicted
it felt right
we felt right
and I did want to marry him in the end!

 

In honour of Valentines Love season and with the help of some of my blogger friends I am happy to have again this year the  A-Ha love series to celebrate February, love, relationships and of course my anniversary- teehee looking at 13 years on Valentine's day.

 If you would like to share your A~HA moment please email me at gaylenjc@gmaildotcom I intend on celebrating for the entire month of February!