Shhh I'm trying to sleep here!

Well look at that it is a New Year and I am actually here to say hello!!

Wishing one and all the very best that you can fathom and... a whole lot more.

Really just hoping that we can get back to some semblance of normal this year keeping a few of the things that we learnt from 2020 though. I am a fan of the social distancing when standing in a line and well the whole hand washing thing I always did but absolutely love that everyone now has to. I would definitely keep the washing or spraying of all things and people that entire the house. teehee

Being married or being part of a couple certainly makes you you privvy to some weird things. You find yourself witnessing things that honestly you may not ever want to (Using the bathroom at the same time anyone) and you also may end up learning about things that you do that you would never know without your partner telling you (Yes you snore!). 

Very early in our marriage my husband found out my propensity to talk in my sleep. Apparently I don't only just talk in my sleep I have also been known to jump out of the bed and go rushing about in a haste. Now I remember nothing but my husband is usually quite peeved at me when it happens... as if I am doing it on purpose LOL.

I found this article on Bored Panda that was hilarious possibly because I may have done one or two of these myself ahahahah

https://www.boredpanda.com/sleep-talking-stories-hilarious-twitter/?cid=1

What weird little quirk came up once your partnership became comfortable?

Are there any other sleep talkers out there? I can't be the only one LOL

Cheers to a great weekend.

Be safe and please wear a mask if you leave your house!

20 questions

 Well look at this I haven't been here in 2 years!! GASP! 

2 whole years.

But it's been a hell of a two years. My mother died last year, February 4th 2019 to be exact, and I would say the last thing I was thinking was to write anything not even her eulogy which I had no choice but to do. I literally shut down mentally. I don't think anyone knew because I still smiled and fed children and got them to school and back, but I drowned myself in all things Netflix specifically Asian romance/comedy/dramas I am partial to Korean and Chinese.Yeah don't ask because I wouldn't be able to explain it either.

And of course this year has presented it own special set of challenges thanks to Miss Corona infecting anyone within coughing or laughing distance. I was always a homebody well now it's even more ingrained in me. The thought of wearing a mask and bustling around with people who may possibly be contagious and dont know it scares me so I rather stay home and wash everything that comes in with soap. Sigh.

Anyways, I am slowly getting back a desire to share my thoughts on things

So I have been reading a lot of romcoms yes I went from binge watching to binge reading. Send help LOL! And in a few of them I noticed as a form of getting to know each other/ icebreaker a lot of them do like a 20 questions date. And it made me think this morning that this is a format that could work for married couples as well even ones married for 21 years or more. Yes, the hubbie and I celebrated 21 years this year! 

Simple questions like:-

What is your favourite colour? Has it changed?

What is your favourite foods now?

What should we put in a will?

Do you think we would take up travelling when the children have move out?

Do you still like travelling?

What is that one place you want to visit that you haven't?

Seascape or mountainscape?

Do you want to go larger or smaller? Homes that is.

Red wine or white wine?

What song should we play at your funeral? 

Do you want a funeral?

Are you okay being placed in a home if you got dementia?

Are still thinking of divorce because of vicks?

Dogs or cats?

The reason for the 20 questions?

Because over time people change.  

My favourite colour as a teenager and young adult was purple no ifs, no buts but now it leans more to orange and gold and pink. Just saying.

Asking the silly questions can lead to the really hard questions about life that you as a couple may be avoiding. Having dealt with three parents dying in the last 7 years with both my parents in the last 3 it has become apparent that the hard questions will happen whether you want them or not. So it helps to be prepared. 

Especially when gifting your wife of 21 years a beautiful bottle of red wine for her 50th birthday when she is not a big wine drinker and if she is drinking it has to be white LOL.

Yes 50 happened this year as well. 

Have a good one friends

Teressa Robin Williams GIF from Teressa GIFs

It has been a hot minute! This year seems to be on skates going way to fast. Not making any promises, just dropping in to say HELLO! Hope all is well.

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Oooo I found this post to be very good

If Men Actually Did These 15 Things, Women Would Want Sex All The Time

http://myinformator.com/2017/05/19/men-actually-15-things-women-want-sex-time/

Favourite line:- "Unsexy things can be a total turn on. Take out the trash. Wash the dishes. Fold the laundry. If she comes home and is surprised with a sparkling clean house, she’s going to want to make it dirty again."

Boy is this ever true. I am not the least bit interested in the cooking, cleaning and washing that is required to keep a house running. And boy have I been grumpy because neither is the hubby. And having just released our housekeeper it means I have to do it all again. So I am actually living the reverse of that line right now where I am thinking no help with house then no sex for you! ... I joke well okay maybe a little serious LOL.

Anyway as I said it is a really good article.
click on the link and give some of it a try it.

It baffles the mind how fast this year is speeding by. It is October already I haven't once peeped in here and said hello!! How is that possible?
I guess life happens, people grow up, people grow old and some of them die and make you cry. But also babies are born and families get together and you feel loved.
Life.
I read this article today that I thought was interesting and I thought to share with you all. It speaks about men's role in the success of a relationship and how men who allow their wives to influence them have happier marriages and are less likely to divorce. I think the more men who reads this the better for us all. So go ahead and Click here.
 

Time happens and things change

I have only ever experienced the impact of a hurricane on a country as an adult. First hurricane ever witnessed by me was Hurricane Ivan. I was married with children. When the hurricane watch was upgraded to warning I was naturally panicked and wanted to bring everything outside into our tiny apt. I was convinced that the Category 4 winds would pick up everything in the patio and twirl it around like a mad dervish and smash our sliding glass door to smithereens. The hubbie laughed at me so hard telling me that I clearly watch too many movies and this was a Hurricane and not Twister. I felt bad because of my inexperience.

 Fast Forward to this year September and Hurricane Matthew was heading our way and much to my surprise this time we were in a bigger place without a glass sliding door and my hubbie was hastily battening down the hatches and bringing in everything that wasn't bolted down into the house because (in all seriousness!!) you never know what the wind would do cause it was a Category 4 Hurricane you know!

I just had to chuckle what a difference a few years makes. LOL

I enjoyed this article http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/real-love-is-a-choice_b_6039412.html
It speaks to what I have been saying throughout  this blog. As a married couple you make the decision to be married and to stay married.  Love is a choice. Marriage is a choice. You choose to stay in both.

Have a great weekend and make great choices.

Just saying HELLO!!

I am not even going to excuse why I have been away so long. I did not know it has been so long!!!
Suffice it to say it has been busy and stressful and sometimes not fun over here. You know that line in your marriage vows where you say through thick and thin. Well this is our thin times.
Well who isn't going through thin, lean eat salt times right now I guess. If you aren't please feel free to adopt the hubbie and I. LOL.

I saw this on Instagram recently and thought it really cute and stole it to share here.
 I especially love #2 because I love birthdays and #7 because wouldn't it just be great not having to think about who needs to eat or drink every two minutes?

Hope everyone is great! Please say Hello back.