Tuesday, February 14, 2012

13 years and counting

June 1998 my husband orchestrated the most romantic event that anyone could ever have come up with... well at least for me at any rate :D
In the middle of a very hectic World Cup in France with the Jamaica in the World Cup, most of you may remember my hubbie is a big football (soccer) fan, my husband led me to a spot obliquely opposite the Eiffel Tower right under a wonderful statue of a David and a Lion. And while I was gawking at the statue, the Eiffel Tower in the distance, the bustling of the people around and soaking in the beauty that is Paris my then boyfriend of 2 years had positioned his father with camera in hand and then holding my hand went down onto one knee.

It was the gentle downward motion of my hand that made me look down to see him on one feet and speaking. My face felt flushed and the world stood still
All I could hear was this whoosh of air as I pulled him up.
He said the most beautiful speech I am sure ..... I don't remember hearing a word of it I just knew to say YES :D
9 months later we were married. 
Today marks 13 years of marriage for us.

Hoping the hubster is able to continue dealing with me :D praying for many many Happy more.

Happy Valentine's Day everyone

Friday, February 10, 2012

Love at First Sight

In honour of Valentines Love season and with the help of some of my blogger friends I am happy to have again this year the  A-Ha love series to celebrate February, love, relationships and of course my anniversary- teehee looking at 13 years on Valentine's day.

Today I kick off the A-Ha series with one of my favourite Mommy Bloggers and twitter friends-Kelly Pugliano from MomGotBlog.com

I dare you to not get all misty eyed reading her sweet A~Ha moment
Love at First Sight
This post was originally written for an online writing group; The Red Dress Club. I had been lurking at the site for a while, enjoying the bevy of talented writers. I was very nervous to submit a piece of writing until this memoir prompt came up. I thought of my husband and our first meeting right away and found it easy to share our story. It makes me smile every time I share it and hope it brings a smile to you too.
Thanks Gayle for letting me share my “Aha-Love-Story Moment”!
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Love at First Sight
I could never have imagined falling victim of love at first sight, especially given the fact that I was already in love, or what I thought love to be.  As fate would allow, on a beautiful, warm summer evening that is exactly what happened.
Every Friday evening, a group of us from work would meet downtown at the local watering hole and lament about our week over a cold beer.  On this particular night, my friend Mike was late for the gathering, due to running home to his brownstone apartment to change. When he finally joined us, Mike shared with the six of us a quick story of running into a guy unloading cardboard moving boxes from a car.
It ended up that he was the new tenant in the third floor apartment of Mike’s building and had just moved from out of state. Offering a helping hand and a welcome, Mike invited him to meet us for a drink when he finished. The new neighbor thanked Mike and said that he would meet up with him later.
“I don’t remember his name. Vinnie, Vince, Vic…something like that. I wanted to be neighborly, so I invited him; but I doubt he will show.” Mike said as he ordered his beer.
Mike barely gulped the first swig out of the green bottle before he choked out “Hey! He showed up! That’s him,” pointing in the direction of the door.
My attention moved toward the entrance of the bar. As a handsome, dark-haired, olive-skinned man walked in the door, time began to slow. It felt for a moment that I was surrounded by a bubble where all sound became muffled. Instantly, my breath caught in my throat, creating a dry pocket or lump of air that could neither be exhaled nor swallowed. The flush of chill, the kind one feels when fever sets in, raced from the bottom of my spine to the top of my head, leaving in the wake goose bumps that extended to my fingertips. My cheeks became warm and my heart began to pound so hard, I thought that those around me could hear it. My mind’s only thought: that’s him.
He walked over to my friend and with a quick smile of recognition, they shook hands. Mike draped his arm over his new friend’s shoulder and announced: “This is the guy; he’s my new neighbor!” and looking to his left said “Glad you could make it!”
Introductions began to make their way around the table and one by one, hellos and names were exchanged. When it came time for us to share, my eyes gazed into the biggest brown eyes I had ever seen. I melted into their warmth and kindness. He had an easy, almost shy quality to his hello. “Hi, I’m Vic” he said with a smile, extending his beautiful hand. My mouth was bone dry, yet I was able to mumble a “Hi!”
I placed my hand into his and the rest they say is history…we have been together ever since, blissfully married for almost 19 years. 
 
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 Have a great weekend everyone!
If you would like to share your A~HA moment please email me at gaylenjc@gmaildotcom I intend on celebrating for the entire month of February!

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

That A-Ha moment

In honour of Valentines Love season and with the help of some of my blogger friends I am happy to have again this year the  A-Ha love series to celebrate February, love, relationships and of course my anniversary- teehee looking at 13 years on Valentine's day.


 The question I am asking is and they happily agree to answer:
Do you remember that AHA moment when you KNEW he was the one, That this was IT. This was the man you were going to marry!

If you would like to share your A~HA moment please email me at gaylenjc@gmaildotcom I intend on celebrating for the entire month of February!

The month of Love

I got this quote from my friend. I think it genius.
Absolutely perfect for the month of Love as most of us like to refer to February.
Have a great day

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

A few things...

Ha! I get another post in before January 2012 runs off into history.

I have been thinking about this alot especially after watching the dissolve of Kim K. and Kris H. marriage unfold on Kourtney and Kim take New York ( yes yes I know I watch it.)

Here are a  few things I have learned from watching this season of Kourtney and Kim Take New York.


It struck me while watching it that the biggest mistake anyone can bring to a marriage or a relationship is not accepting the person that you are with for who they REALLY are.

I am always amazed by people who meet their respective significant other in a party and through out their relationship party hard together and then once married or seriously committed expect the person to change and give up a partying life. Or in Kris Humps case grumping because Kim is living her life for the cameras. Didn't he meet her while she was living life in front of a camera stage or not? And can he seriously be upset because she wouldn't move to Minnesota why would he even think that is possible I don't even know her and I know that was never going to happen. Moving from city life to country life is hard for anyone even those who willingly want it.

Sigh but really no matter how many time it is said that you shouldn't go into a relationship with the hope that the other person would change people will still do it and people will just have their expectations dashed.

Oh another thing that I got from Kim K and Kris Hump is that you have to meet the other person half way. COMPRISE is very very important in a marriage and a relationship. Kim being ridiculously shallow and self centred coupled with Kris Hump's stubborn-headed spoil brat behaviour was from the start to me a recipe for disaster. They both never seem to want to give into the other it was always a power struggle. If no one gives in ever then you are in trouble. As evident by those two.

Oh well so I guess the lessons learned are:
  • Don't expect a person to change because you want it
  • Accept a person for who they are and decide if you are willing to be with that person as if ( if they do change it should be because they want)
  • Compromise is key
Thank you for humouring me as I vent about my favourite guilty pleasure. :D
Have a great week all!

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Hello! Hello!

You want to know what is a hell of a test on a marriage?
Sharing a computer!
Yup that has been my life for the last few weeks.
My sweet hubster had decided to work at home forgoing the two computers he has at his office to work here on my computer!!!
As much as I love having the hubster around it was a bit.... uhm ... kinda... uhm okay I'll say it annoying I wanted to use my computer.
LoL luckily no arguments erupted or did a rogue stapler suddenly sprout wings and hurtle itself at the hubbie's head. No it was all good because hey it was Christmas and New Years so new thing, new attitudes.
Oh by the by
HAPPY NEW YEAR my PeePs

Yes yes I know the 2012  is all of 19 days old already but it is still a pup :D

If there were one thing that I would wish for everyone this year is that they communicate more.
So my word for the year is

Have a good one.

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Merry Merry





Wishing you a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, Seasons Greeting, Happy Hannukah, 
& Happy Kwanzaa  too.